Hey Moms...
Let’s be real for a second: when life feels tough, sticky, and downright unmanageable, working on yourself seems absolutely FUCKING impossible. Cue Tom Cruise because it’s looking like another case of Mission Impossible. But wait—is it really? Or is it just that we’re so bogged down by our own childhood and teenage trauma that we can’t see the solutions sitting right in front of us?
Picture this: you’re a single parent of three kids, drowning in the chaos of co-parenting struggles. The other parent’s involvement is sporadic at best, and every interaction feels like a fight—worrying about money, begging for time, trying to make it work. Sound familiar? Let’s take a step back and reframe this situation.
The Hard Truth About Co-Parenting and Trauma
You chose this partner at a point in your life that was shaped by unresolved issues and past trauma. And guess what? That means they likely have their own unhealed wounds, too. It’s not about who’s better or worse; it’s about who’s willing to step up, use the resources available, and change the game.
In my case, I was that tired mom of three, juggling a full-time job, driving to practices and dance classes, helping with homework, and trying to keep it all together. What I wanted more than anything was rest. But even more than that, I wanted to feel heard and seen. Guess who showed me that first? ME.
Setting Boundaries with a Narcissistic Co-Parent
One of the first changes I made was in how I communicated with my kids’ father. He had narcissistic tendencies, and our conversations were draining. So, I stopped putting my emotions into our exchanges. I stuck to the facts about the kids and refused to engage in petty arguments. The more I held that boundary, the angrier he got, and eventually, he just stopped talking to me altogether.
Was that the ultimate goal? No. Ideally, I’d like us to get along and for him to consistently be present for our children. But I recognized that he wasn’t ready to heal. I couldn’t force him to face his trauma—that was his journey. What I could do was reclaim my own power.
The Journey Back to Myself
I needed me back. I wanted me back. So, I started questioning everything I’d been taught—morals, values, religion, the idea of a higher power. Once I connected with my ancestors, it was game over. The healing began.
Now, this is the short version of what happened, but the point is clear: you have to want healing for yourself. No excuses. Even as a busy mother of three, with work, sports, dance, and everything else pulling me in a million directions, I made myself a priority. And you can, too.
The Key Question: Are You Making Yourself a Priority?
If you’re ready to stop making excuses and start reclaiming your power, I have something for you. This January, I’ll be hosting a free 3-day workshop on balancing your personal power and parenting.
This isn’t just for moms with kids still at home. Whether your children are in college or are young adults, you’re still navigating the balance between being a parent and being you. This workshop is designed to help you find that balance and feel empowered in your journey.
Ready to Join?
If this sounds like what you need, email me at therisingsun723@gmail.com with the subject line “Sign Me Up,” and I’ll send you the details as they’re announced. This is your chance to take that first step toward prioritizing yourself without guilt.
Are you ready to take back your power? Let’s do this together.